What is squirting?
Squirting is an ejaculation of fluid from the vulva, more specifically, the urethra. It is a clear-ish fluid that can be released from the body during a pleasurable sexual experience.
If you’ve ever seen a gush of liquid come out of a vulva owner’s body in porn, or been left with a big wet patch on the bed after sex, that’s squirting.
Some people describe squirting as an orgasmic sensation, but it’s actually a separate experience from orgasm. You may orgasm and squirt at the same time, but you could also squirt without orgasming and vice versa.
Where does squirting come from & is it urine?
Squirting comes from the urethra, rather than the vagina, but it’s technically not pee. However, if you have a full bladder when squirting, it is likely that the fluid will include urine. If you’re worried about peeing while squirting, go to the toilet before sex and start with an empty bladder.
If you’re interested in the biology of squirting, the type of fluid is actually pretty similar to fluid produced in the prostate gland in penis owners! It comes from the Skene’s glands. There is limited research on this area, which is why it’s so commonly misunderstood as urine.
When does squirting happen?
Squirting happens when there is a build up of pressure against the urethral sponge. This can occur from clitoral and G-spot stimulation, as these areas press up against the urethra when aroused (yes, the clitoris grows in size and becomes erect when aroused — more on this, here). Squirting may happen during fingering, penetrative sex, G-spot stimulation, a blended orgasm, or even while using your Empress 2.
Just because you’ve squirted once or twice, doesn’t mean you’ll do it every time. Some people go through periods in their life, or partners, where squirting comes quite naturally, and other times it just won’t be part of their sex life.
What does squirting feel like?
If you feel like you’re about to pee during sex, you’re probably going to squirt. It can feel very similar to peeing, which is why it can be hard to trust your body enough to let it happen. It feels like peeing because it comes from the same area of your body.
In terms of pleasure, squirting feels different for everyone! For some, it feels extremely good, particularly if it happens at the same time as orgasm. Any type of release during sex feels great! But for others, it feels more similar to urination — a sense of relief to release the fluid, but nothing particularly pleasurable.
Sometimes you don’t recognise the sensation, so you only realise you’ve squirted once you see that wet patch on the bed sheets. Don’t worry, that’s completely normal — it’s not going to feel as amazing as it looks in porn for everyone.
Can everyone squirt?
Everyone with a vulva and urethra should have the tools to squirt, however this area does not have a lot of research, so we don’t exactly know. It makes sense to assume that everyone with a vulva should be able to, since they have all the equipment! But studies have shown that the majority of vulva owners have never squirted. It’s important not to judge yourself or your body if you have not squirted. Everyone’s body is different, and it may come more naturally to some.
Squirting vs Female Ejaculation
While sometimes referred to as female ejaculation, squirting and ejaculation are actually different. (It’s also important to note that not everyone with a vulva who can squirt identifies as female, so at VUSH, we don’t love this term. Squirting can be a gender-affirming sexual experience for some trans men and non-binary people who want to experience ejaculation from a masc lens!). Ejaculation from the vulva is a thick white milky fluid of up to 1 ml, whereas squirting is a higher volume of clear-ish fluid.
How to squirt solo or with a partner
1. Know your anatomy
As previously mentioned, there are a few different ways to make the squirting process happen. Ensure you know your vulva and anatomy inside and out, to be able to try all the spots. Research where the G-spot actually is (hint: it's a few inches inside the vagina, against the vaginal wall that faces the stomach), and what an aroused clitoris looks like. Read more about vulva anatomy here.
2. Create a safe environment
Let’s face it, squirting is a messy and intimate experience. When you feel that ‘I need to pee’ sensation, you need to feel fully comfortable to let go. This may mean taking it to the shower, or laying a towel down on the bed. It could also mean going to the toilet beforehand so you know it's purely squirt coming out and you’re not worried about pee! It may also make you feel more comfortable to talk to your partner/s about experimenting with squirting, so they know to expect a mess.
3. Clit stim + foreplay
Squirting is commonly linked to the G-spot, but can also often occur through external clitoral stimulation. Start with foreplay to turn on the entire body and get the clitoris aroused, before moving to the genitals. Always explore external stimulation before moving internally. Clit stim is also important since the G-spot is actually the back of the clitoris, and only shows up when the clitoris is aroused.
4. Stimulate the G-spot
The G-spot is one of the more common erogenous zones to be associated with squirting. To stimulate this area, put your fingers inside your vagina and press against the vaginal wall that faces the stomach. (This may be easier with an internal vibrator, which we’ll get into next). If you’re exploring with a partner, have them use the 'come-hither' motion while fingering you, to provide gentle pressure against the G-spot.
5. Experiment with sex toys
Sex toys can be a game changer when it comes to squirting. Myth is our go-to recommendation for G-spot stimulation, as it can be used for external clit stim first, and also internal G-spot stimulation. However, if you’re looking for that ‘come-hither motion’, we recommend Muse, as it has an oscillating internal arm, plus an external arm to combine clit stim! We’ve also heard a lot of squirting success stories with Empress 2. You never know what’s going to work for you! Consider a variety of vibrators to begin your squirting journey.
6. Try different positions
Some positions may be better suited to squirting than others. For example, during penetrative sex, doggy style will allow the penetrating partner to access the G-spot, and cowgirl will allow the receiving partner to take control of what works for them. During fingering, have the partner positioned in between your legs as you lie on your back, with their body leaning slightly forward, over yours (this way they can curl their fingers to do the come-hither motion). During solo play, the options are endless — here are our recommendations for masturbation positions and poses.
How much fluid comes out when you squirt?
This will differ for everyone. Some people feel a gushing sensation with a large amount of liquid, while others have a smaller amount of fluid in more of a gentle drip. The amount of fluid that is released during squirting could differ each time you squirt, even if you’re doing the same thing, with the same partner/s each time.
How long does squirting last?
This will depend on how much fluid comes out! However, it most likely lasts a few seconds. For some people it’s a quick gush, whereas for others, it’s a slower dribble.
Can you squirt more than once?
Yes, absolutely. Just like multiple orgasms, it’s possible to squirt multiple times. This may even be easier than having multiple orgasms, as the body doesn’t need a refractory period after squirting compared to after orgasm!
Why can’t I squirt?
There’s nothing wrong with you if you’ve never squirted, it’s actually very common. If you’ve never done it before, and are unsure how to get there, you’re not alone. The good news is, there are many different types of stimulation that can induce squirting, so not all hope is lost. It may just take some trial and error to work out what works for your body. The key is to not put too much pressure on your body, and try to relax. Like all good things, it may happen when you least expect it.
Are there any benefits to squirting?
Some people really enjoy the sensation of the physical release that comes with squirting. Similar to orgasm, it can help you feel relaxed, and make you feel good. It can also be a little party trick to impress your partner/s! In terms of health benefits, there are more benefits associated with orgasm than squirting.
Read more on Stimulation:
To learn more about the vulva and anatomy, read our vulva anatomy, pleasure and care guide or our guide to masturbation. We have a variety of sexual wellness guides on our VUSH Stimulation blog, including how to use a G-spot vibrator, how to use a rabbit vibrator, and even a beginner's guide to lube.
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